wedding photos!!

aaah, the wedding photos finally arrived and what a wait worthwhile. I have never ever doubted our photographer’s talent (which is why i may have forced him to be our photographer, considering hes a special friend of ours) but I honestly believe that he has outdone himself. The wedding album, is breathtaking. And the post hes put up on his blog is amazing too, but let me tell all you peeps out there, the 500 plus photos on the cd you get are JUST AS AMAZING!

So, out of all the millions of photos, I picked a few more of my favourite for your viewing pleasure:

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recapping the night before after an exhausting day of setting up

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the delicious bunny chows

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the talented photographer!

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all the dresses

As a bride (now wife), going wedding dress shopping is SUPER fun – i’ve already written a post on this adventure, but thought it would be fun to post some of the wedding dresses I tried on, and how it led me to my beautiful, one of a kind wedding dress.

We only went to three shops, which is plenty. You don’t want to be rushing around to different kinds of shops and getting all the sweat on all those beautiful dresses.

Here’s how that went:











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the winning dress!

What a fun experience! Be sure to go have plenty of drinks afterwards!

The Wedding

So, the big day has come and gone and what a big day it was. I mean, fine it was our wedding so of course we will love it, but seriously, our wedding was awesome. I don’t even know where to begin this post!


courtesy of Luca Photography

I took two weeks off from work before the wedding to wrap up any last minute details. I don’t know what I’ve been doing the last year but there seemed to have been an excessive amount of last minute details. We decided the day before we are set to leave to the venue that the ‘now-husband’ and I needed our own little special place to sit which meant we had to quickly make new blankets, table runners, get candles and flowers for us, and to our surprise, had personalised wine glasses. It was a great idea because walking into your venue, you definitely need that spot to head to and not walk around aimlessly, looking for a spot to sit. We didn’t want the traditional main table setting, because our main focus for the wedding was for everyone to be as comfortable as possible and to just have a good time. Sit where you wanted, with who you wanted.



The week before the wedding I contacted all our suppliers just to touch base with all our orders and collections. I’ve ordered these really amazing hanging lightbulbs which I’ve searched the earth for! I needed their address to collect these lightbulbs and again, the day before we are set leave, found out that the supplier is based in cape town!! I immediately contacted them and they were absolutely amazing! They arranged everything to get the lights to me the following day. It arrived nice and early the following morning. I could have set a new trend though : Wedding in the Dark. Let the mystery unfold. It could totally work.

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Friday was set up day as most of the wedding stuff was brought up by family members. We had such terrible winds (40 knots) that we pretty much couldn’t set up anything. Panic. We managed to get the tent up and all the lights up, which I guess, is the hard part.


My bridesmaids were amazing. They completely took control of everything and made everything just work. All the flowers were vased, all the food was packed. the bar sign was put up. candle baulbs were hung up in the tree. They took over everything, which gave me the opportunity to welcome guests as they arrived.






The Friday night we had a braai with all the guests, just to welcome them and have everyone mingle a bit. I won’t lie, i was completely exhausted by then and sneakily snuck off to bed early in the night. It was a great opportunity for guests who didn’t know many people to mingle a bit and chat.

‘now-husband’ and I stayed in the same cottage that night, which I think is actually a really nice idea. We hardly saw each other that day because we were sooo busy putting everything together and making sure the guests that arrived are settled in that we didn’t get to check in with each other once. So by the time we got to bed, we just had a nice quiet time together before the big day, checking in with each other to see how the other one is doing. We are both feeling the same emotions, which means we completely understand how the other one is feeling and it’s easy to talk to each other then.

Getting ready was amazing. We had such perfect weather. The sun was shining, everyone was feeling happy and relaxed. I went up to the tent early in the morning to finish up all the setting up, and by the time I got there, the girls have completely set everything up! I’m telling you, I have the best friends. We all got ready in our cottage. We had music playing, champagne was flowing and we had some yummy snacks. The hair and make up ladies couldn’t believe how relaxed and chilled out we were. We had such a lovely time getting ready. Everyone was painting everyone’s nails (including the hairdresser) and just having some good ol girl time.


I couldn’t wait to be in my dress. I’ve been waiting to wear it for so long. I just loved my dress! There was no sexy lingerie with this one though. With my dress being backless, I had to use some special tools to keep them boobies in tact, I literally looked like I had surgery done to them. It was a mess. But the trick worked!


Driving up to the ceremony, the excitement really burst. As soon as I saw my dad and my brother, we all just burst into tears. It’s such an extremely emotional time and I couldn’t wait to see ‘now-husband’!







The ceremony went so quick and our Reverend was super sweet. I can most certainly highly recommend him for anyone getting married up in the mountains.

So the wedding itself was quite crazy and out of control, but what can one expect with free alcohol. We had little monkeys climbing the tent pole (im looking at you Gareth Warrington) – one rule! only one! I’m not really sure what happened, but things went from 1 to 10000000000 really, really quickly. Ripping shirts off, torpedo bombing tables, pole dancing, worm dancing, breakdancing, you name it, we had it. Even a little pony. We had ponies people.




My favourite part was our impromptu, spur of the moment, first dance. Yes, we never got to planning our first dance and after a stern whisper in my ear by our dear friend, and super awesome photographer Luca, we quickly got on it. We danced and danced and danced and when we ran out of moves, we just stood still, embraced each other, and had all our friends dancing in a big circle around us. It was so magical.


Later in the evening we had the ever so famous bunny chows come out. however, it never made it out the kitchen because everyone got sniff of it and just started tucking in, straight out of the pot. I may have instigated this. I spent about two hours at the pot, chatting away and feeding all our guests. Such a good host. The party ended at about 3 in the morning. We snuck off much earlier though as we had an early morning.

When we got to the tent the next morning, I was horrified. I couldn’t believe the mess. I mean, it was like a pack of wild racoons got hold of the place. It was insane. Sure sign of a good party, I say.

We quickly packed everything up, hardly got to say any good byes, and rushed off to the airport, for our epic two week italian honeymoon!

And just like that, the best day ever, was over. But I get to enjoy the best part of it, my whole life – my ‘now-husband’.



Hi all!

So with all the wedding planning and life happening around me, at some point I actually need to start taking this project-becoming-a-skinnybitch serious. It’s been really tough. Wedding planning is starting to weigh me down a bit and I’m just feeling exhausted. And the thought of now squeezing myself into some sexy ski-pants every afternoon is just too much to handle. But, what bride doesn’t lose weight for her wedding?? I mean, if you not going to make an effort to lose weight for your own wedding day then there seriously is NO hope for you. I can’t be that person. I mean I could. But let’s try not to.

So i’ve started off by doing a lot of running. Specially trail running. Man, that is just the best kind of running. Free in the wild, running through the bushes. It’s so liberating. I’ve also done some cycling. As amazing as all those activities are, I feel like they just become too much admin and time. Having to get up, get dressed and drive somewhere to work out for about 2 hours, drive back, shower, pass out, wake up and actually go somewhere. it became a whole morning thing. I needed something quicker and easier.

So along came Kayla. Now I’m pretty sure most of you girls have heard of her. If not, you may be living under a tiny rock, at least in the fitness world. This girl is like the fitness natzi.


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These are 2x 7 minute circuits which you do twice. So overall, about 30mins of workout three times a week, in the comfort of your own home. Now I know most of us have done a fair amount of home workouts. Personally I never really felt like they worked much. I didn’t have a routine so I didn’t quite know what I was doing. With Kayla, there is a routine. You know exactly what to do on what day. And let me tell you, this shit works. I’ve never been this sore from any other form of exercise.

I have taken my before photo and am planning on taking the after photo after week 4 or 5. It’s very important to take these as you really don’t notice the difference until you put those two photos next to each other. Don’t take the number on the scale too serious. Remember, muscle weighs more than fat and i’ve actually put on a kg or two but i am feeling so much better so that number on the scale doesn’t worry me too much. Diet is key however. Don’t think you can now indulge in all the chocolates of the lands! Living a healthier lifestyle and just cutting one or two bad habits out every few months is way more sustainable than following a diet! You start with cutting that one bad habit out. Mine is sugar and bread. I’m winning with the sugar part but not so much the bread part, but i’m definitely getting better. This is much easier to do than going cold turkey on a full on diet. They are just not sustainable.

So this is my last hope. If this doesn’t work then there really is no more hope left for me.

Watch this space!

Wedding Invites

Hello all!

So wedding planning is coming along nicely! We have just over 5 months to gooooooo!! PRESSURE! Most things are done so its ok. it’s just these random small things that pop up that you just don’t think about. like bread knives. I need bread knives. Suppose that is something i shouldve thought about considering its a picnic wedding. meh. That’s why i have lovely bridesmaids. I am now delegating! errrrrthing!

Anyway, back to the invites. Our invites came out so amazing! And its not because their just mine. Ive been pondering for months and months on what to do for our invites. I knew i definitely wanted something different. I couldn’t decide whether it should be digital, like those really cool stop motion videos, or something that pops up when you open it, or glitter falling out on your recently vacuumed carpet. Too many options! It easily gets narrowed down, however, when you look at what will work best for you. Fiance and I are rather camera shy, so a video probably would not have worked for us. Just as well, because that’s a lot of admin, and when you plan a wedding, you want LESS admin! It all comes down to budget as well, so the more detail and frills the more expensive.

The future sister in law then came beaming down the heavens in rays of sunshine and offered to do our invites for us as a wedding gift! And let me tell you, she did an amazing job.

I went fabric shopping and found the most amazing aztec patterned fabric and took a swatch to her.


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She came up with the most awesome design, just from the tiniest little swatch. And even better, she had them ready for me in no time!







They all fold up into a little envelope:


They’ve been a real hit with our guests, and I couldn’t be happier with them. Not at all what I thought I would end up with but couldn’t imagine them looking any better. And it suits the wedding so well. Funky and fun!

If you ever want any kind of design work like this, give me a shout and I will gladly give her details!


Bridal Fair

This weekend was the Daily News’s Bridal Fair at The Square Boutique hotel in Umhlanga. I was rather impressed with this hotel. Now, being a bride, going to bridal fairs can be a huge help when it comes to planning. In my mind, this is the type of event you go to, to find vendors, inspiration etc. This is where I want to see trends! Whats happening in the wedding world of 2015. Of course Pinterest is full of trends and ideas, but sometimes you just want to keep it local and see what’s on offer in sunny SA.

We got to the venue and got handed a goodie bag. Excellent! In my world, goodie bags are the BEST way to start any event. Goodie bags at funerals. Someone get on that…

But this was a trick…Enter the archway-made-from-all-the-organza-in-the-world! This should have been my first warning…When I entered the room I had no idea in which direction to go. There was no clear path direction. This may seem silly, but when all the stalls kinda look the same, you need some direction. Every single stall had the same set up – a wedding table. With all the bling bling a Bollywood movie could dream of. It was the same set up you would’ve seen 5 years ago. And it was mainly just decor stuff. You can easily find these things on the internet. And none of the stalls had something unique to show me. Tables, chandeliers, candelabras, pearls and tea cups. Same old stuff.  I was rather disappointed. I wanted to see trends! Forward thinking. What’s new out there. But got faced with the same thing, over and over again. With my dress, I need a specific kind of bra. Surely this would be the place to find such things. Nothing. Not even wedding dresses? Nothing for grooms either.

There was, however, a photobooth where we could strut our stuff and take a couple of pictures to take home. That was fun. And then there was a friendly lady called Anne, who was very helpful and managed to grab our attention and have us telling her about my whole wedding and what we plan and what products she had that I was looking for. And she seemed to have loved my wedding concept and was very enthusiastic. Then again, who tells a bride her wedding sounds shit and lives to tell the tale….nobody. And then there was the lady with the cupcakes. I can’t remember what she was selling. Did I mention she had cupcakes?

So for my first bridal fair as a bride (yes, I may have gone to bridal fairs as a non-bride. What’s the problem here?) I was rather disappointed and uninspired. People of the wedding-vendor-world…get on that shit! Please.

Dress Shopping

You guys! Let me just tell you that going wedding dress shopping is super fun. In fact, I would like to make a career out of it…..mental note….

So as most wedding-obsessed girls I knew exactly what my dress would look like. I had the picture and fabric swatch READY! Until…..I went dress shopping. Durban has surprized me with the quality and stunning dresses on offer and I have most definitely changed my mind on what I wanted! I rounded up my all my girls and hit the streets! I definitely recommend booking a fitting first with your chosen stores.


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The first store we went to was Sposabella ( What a lovely experience. The staff there are so friendly and so patient! I mustve tried on about 10 dresses (some stores limit you to only 4-5 dresses). The assistant just carried on smiling, squeezing my size 12 body into a size 8 dress (the dress was really pretty ok) and making me feel like that skinny bitch I aspire to become. I was, however, terrified of ripping said dress and quickly waddled my way back to the changing room to get that thing off me! There were so many dresses to choose from my brain felt like exploding! Having said that, the dresses look very different when its on the mannequin but once you put them on, they do tend to look similar as its easy to miss those finer details that set them apart. I am dyyiiing to post some pics of the dresses I had tried on, but the fiance gave strict instructions that he didnt want to see me in anything weddingy before the big day.

The next shop we went to was the fabric shop on Musgrave Road. In terms of wedding dresses, I couldnt pick a single dress I wanted to try on but in terms of their fabric! Oh glory do they have beautiful fabric. In fact, I went back there and bought the fabric for my dress there.

The next and final store was Bride & Co in Umhlanga ( What I liked most about this store was that it was big and spacious and more than one bride could take a little look around at all the beautiful dresses.


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There was a huge variety of dresses and I had a lot of fun trying on dresses I usually wouldn’t. They have a strict no-photos policy which is quite understandable but when you see some of those dresses you just need to take a dam photo! My mom and maid of honour went into full on CIA stealth mode and managed to take a million photos of me in a particular dress which I absolutely loved. They made me proud.

Afterwards we went for much needed drinks at Lucky Shakers ( If you havent been to lucky shakers you better get your ass over there! Every week they buy fresh veggies, and make all their own mixes for the week, so everything is fresh and organic. It definitely tastes it as well.


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So all in all it was a very successful day. I have THE dress and its already in the making. My lovely mother will be making my dress with the help of a professional seamstress.


dress in the making!

Fingers crossed it all works out!

the venue

hello everyone!

So, let’s talk wedding venue. Finding the right wedding venue has proved to be a lot more difficult than one can expect! Lets face it, most girls have a pret-ty good idea of their dream wedding long before they get engaged (what, was I the only one??). Anyway, so when it came to venue shopping I had a good idea of what I wanted. I was looking for your moden, warehouse kind of atmosphere. Something big and rustic. Well its easy to know what you want, but finding it is another story. In fact, I lie, I found the PERFECT venue! It was too perfect. It wasnt a wedding venue at all so when I emailed them and pitched my idea they were quite interested. Until they mentioned that they couldnt fully commit to my date and will advise closer to the time….excuse me? This is a wedding were talking about people! Venue is number one! I then also couldnt have my wedding on a Saturday. So it turned out not so perfect and decided I didnt want the unnecessary stress. I then asked if I could perhaps have my photos taken there….”sorry mam, we are not open for any kind of photography”. Its not the paprazzi! Just some wedding photos for private viewing. Moving along!

So the fiance and I decided to take a little trip through town and look at some possible venues. If I remember correctly, his exact words at the one venue were “if we dont leave now I am going to puke all over this place”. yeah, this was going great.

I decided to take my mom on the next trip. We had a look at a few hotels and restaurants but nothing really interested me. We decided on our plan B venue at the end of the day, which was Market restaurant ( Its such a stunning venue and we’ve been to a wedding there before, which was absolutely gorgeous! I was happy with the choice and started planning the wedding. Very soon, without realising it, our wedding just started snowballing into this big massive occassion. Costs were getting so high so quickly and next thing I knew, I was busy planning a wedding that I actually didnt want at all. This was freaking me out. One night I was tossing and turning and just couldnt sleep until it hit me. I jumped up from bed, realising that that didnt wake up the fiance. So I started with strategically loud *sighs*….hes awake….”oh sorry love, did I wake you?” (ehehehe). And offered him the choice of whether he wanted to hear my thoughts now or wait till the morning….he went with choice 1 (such a good fiance) so I started rambling on about my new concept to which I just got a slight murmur at the end.

So, at the end end of the day, we decided to have our wedding at The Berghouse and Cottages ( Now for any of you who havent been there before…do!yourself!a favour! Its the most divine setting with the most wonderful family as your hosts. We’ve both been there before and just fell inlove with it. I cant believe this wasnt my number one choice. You can’t help but feel relaxed when you are there. We will be having a whole wedding weekend away with our family and friends. How amazing.

Some snaps for our spot:


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the tree we will be saying our vows under

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So at the end of the day, we ended up with a venue we never expected, and the type of wedding I didnt initially set out to plan. But I couldnt be more happier with our decisions and am just so excited for our big day!




the engagement!

So as mentioned before, I am in my early days of planning our wedding. We got engaged 29 August 2014 on a weekend away in the bush.


the ring from Dearrae. Grey diamond set in Yellow gold


the happy couple!

We got engaged at Mpila Camp ( It was not expected at all as we have booked to go away that weekend about 5 months prior to that.

I had this whole teasing joke with the fiance about a very expensive bottle of wine which his brother gave to us as a gift. At the back of this bottle it had a timeline graph of when the optimum usage is. So from 2014 onwards was the best time to consume this wine. I had then started teasing him that that bottle can only be drunk on one special occasion and it wasnt his 30th! (he turned 30 in 2014). It became a whole joke with the family. He didnt appreciate it.

For two weeks before our weekend away he had been plotting with our whole family behind my back, trying to get the perfect ring! I had no idea everyone was in on it!

So when the big moment arrived, I was sitting, wrapped up in a cozy blanket around the fire drinking some wine. When it was time to refill my glass, he politely offered to fill it for me. I didnt think anything of the fact that he went into our tent to fill my glass and not the kitchen. Next thing he stood in front of me, showing me the bottle of wine, saying “I think you know what this means”. Before I could register what was going on he was down on one knee and asked me to marry him. And then the typical happened, snot en trane! It took me a moment to say yes.

But I have to admit, going from girlfriend to fiance is a super strange feeling! We both felt really weird about it. In a good way of course. The next day we were out on the road in the game reserve for a good 8 hours, and I think we spoke about 50 words to each other the whole day! We were both quite freaked out by this new state of affairs. But it was nice that we both felt exactly the same. So grown up!

That feeling wore off by the next day and I couldnt wait to talk wedding for the next 4 hours on the drive back with just the two of us! haha. He loved that.